If you are here, it is likely that you are looking for help of some sort. I often describe my own journey as finding pieces of a jigsaw that help me make sense of things. Sometimes I find these inside of myself, sometimes they come from others.

Finding help for me has been something of a challenge over the years, and in setting up my website and writing profiles on various directories, I have thinking about how I might make that easier for someone, for you hopefully. I’ve reflected on the things that have worked for me, and in truth, I find it difficult when faced with a list of people, who all write about how many things they can support me with, and have so much information. It is for me overwhelming.

So what I try to offer in all my writings, is something of who I am. The research is clear, it is not the technique that is helpful, it is the relationship (Cooper, 2008). So it feels important in deciding who you work with to consider the relationship and how you feel with them. This is part of why I offer a 30 minute free consultation, to meet and experience something of what it would be like for us to work together.

The UKCP website asks a few questions that feel really important in meeting someone new:

• Would I feel comfortable telling them about intimate details of my life?
• Do I feel safe with them?
• Do I like their manner towards me?
• Could I be completely open with them?

Cooper, M. (2008). The facts are friendly. Therapy Today, 19 (7), 8-13.